Counselling and Therapy for Sex Workers ¦ Matt Valentine-Chase
Matt Valentine-Chase
'If you need any help or advice as a sex worker then I highly recommend Matt as a first point of call...'
Charlotte Rose, Sex and Relationship Expert
'Wow - I fully expected you to say there was no hope. Within such a short time you brought me right back around to the real me. Thank you!'
Previous Client (shared with permission)
'It's so crucial to seek non-judgemental therapist who can meet your unique needs. Recommended @IAmMattVC sex counsellor for those seeking therapy who are or have been sex workers'.
Alison Cook (sw org staff) on Twitter
Sex Worker? He gets it, and you are not alone. Integrative therapy...
Take a look at the quick vid Matt's done for you, lower down this page, to explain his experience and approach. He works internationally online so help is often just a click away.
As well as being trained in counselling and therapy, Matt understands the adult industry – so you know that you won’t be judged and that Matt will do his best to see how things are for you right now – without letting the stigma you are probably used to get in the way.
Your counselling or coaching needs may be related to your job:
You might feel that people don't understand the business you work or have worked in. This experience can sometimes result in:
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Feelings of isolation
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Feeling judged or stigmatised
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Loss of libido
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Feelings of shame or guilt (caused by conditioning etc.)
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A want or desire to leave the industry
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Feelings of confusion whether to ‘stay or go’
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A loss of career direction
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Feelings of overwhelm
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Family/Spouse issues around the work you do
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and more
Often when sex workers seek therapy, therapists can assume that sex work is the sole cause of current problems. This is a relatively common occurrence and can cause distress and frustration - at not being seen or understood. Matt has extensive experience of working with sex workers and as such he knows that to most - it really is just a job. So you might want to speak to him about:
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General anxiety and/or depression
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Issues and concerns around relationships
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Personal development needs
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Business development (this is where coaching is helpful)
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Using transferable skills from or to sex work
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Stress, anger issues, grief and loss
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Mid life (sometimes called an existential) crisis
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Spiritual needs and anything you want to talk about
Everyone is welcome and Matt works with:
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Adults over 18 (escorts, cammers, dancers, porn performers, content creators, phone sex providers, pro Doms, on-street etc.)
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Groups
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Organisations:
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Brothels
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Saunas
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Health Clubs
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Massage Parlours
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Content creators employing staff etc.
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He welcomes:
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Men
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Women
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Trans Men and Women
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Intersex
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Gender Neutral
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Non-binary
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Gay
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Straight
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Bisexual
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Questioning
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You!
Appointments can be by:
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Telephone, Skype, WhatsApp video
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Face-to-face on occasion or
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Face-to-face in small groups for your workers/staff/contractors
Some on-site visits in brothels and parlours in Manchester - London - Brighton - Cheshire - Leeds can be arranged at your request. He occasionally works from venues in Kings Cross London. It is highly unlikely that you will need sessions every week, due to the nature of how Matt works. Matt is an empath as well as being trained in therapy. This can be helpful if you need to process 'stuff' quickly (and safely). He is integrative in his approach, he will have a chat with you first to discuss this and see if his way of working suits you.
Please also see ‘Sex Coaching’ for sex and relationships as this may also apply to you in and out of work.
Please text or call 07716 232 865 to enquire or to make your appointment or book online.
Matt's Got Something To Say...
True Experience
IN THE ADULT INDUSTRY
Whilst there are more therapists now working with sex workers, and training just starting (why did it take so long?) from sex worker orgs to train therapists to work with sex workers, without judgement, it's still slow going.
Take a look at the video Matt has done for you... for some info on why he does what he does, how long he's done it for - and his own extensive experience in the business.
SEX WORKER SAFETY - BEYOND THE GAZE
Matt worked for the Beyond the Gaze three year research project into the online sex industry. As part of the project Matt co-wrote Safety and Privacy for Online Sex Workers.
This download document is based upon the research - the largest UK study to date - and was written by researchers, project staff and former and current sex workers. You can download yours for free, by clicking on the image.
For more information on Beyond the Gaze, please visit: www.beyond-the-gaze.com where you will find other resources including safety tips, research findings, publications, briefings and media.
Click the image to download.
The Safety and Privacy for Online Sex Workers document is also hosted by National Ugly Mugs.
Matt is now listed on the North East Sex Work Forum
It is rare that fee-charging therapy services are invited to join organizations or listing sites that provide details of helping services for sex workers. Although this can be frustrating (as some sex workers much prefer to see a private therapist) It is completely understandable - because most of these are charities and as such cannot be seen to promote private businesses. Another problem with listing private therapists is that many therapists say they are sex work friendly, when perhaps they may not be. Matt was approached by the team at NESWF who asked him if we works online (partly because the Forum is North-East focused and partly because sex workers are increasingly seeking online support). He does, so is now proudly listed on the NESWF Support Services for Sex Workers. Matt was deeply moved by the time and effort they took to 'check him out'. Thank you so much to the team there, you are doing a GREAT job! xx
