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The London Sex Coach - Online - Matt Valentine-Chase


Matt Valentine-Chase

Matt Valentine-Chase Sex Coach
Sex coaching for men and women Manchester
Coaching for sex problems gay sex therapy
Heterosexual couple therapy for better sex
Sex coaching for lesbian couples Manchester

Hello you... Welcome to the website. Matt, the London sex coach, is an award winning sex positive practitioner who works differently. He does give advice, he doesn't robotically head-nod like some 'traditional' counsellors - and he has a great sense of humour. When you're struggling, working with someone who skilfully lightens the moment for you - can be a breath of fresh air.

He works online so is international and most currencies are accepted including crypto.

He has a quick video intro for you, at the bottom of this page, but before that take a look at how he works...


He works online offering professional therapy for sex problems, sex issues, sexual development, porn addictions, kink positivity, sex worker inclusion and more. Matt is the resident sex expert on the weekly live Belle's Secrets Show, where he answers questions on sex, kink, relationships, sex worker inclusion, sex and disability, mental health and more. See bottom of the page for details. Now, back to you...

You may be experiencing:

  • Sex addictions - to porn, certain types of sex, too much sex etc.

  • Intimacy issues - struggling to commit, feeling disconnected from your partner or casual encounters

  • Erection problems

  • Coming too quickly or taking a long time to come

  • Dryness, emotionally-based vaginal tightness/spasm

  • Stuckness in the bedroom (or wherever you're having sex) 'same old same old' routine

  • Feeling under pressure to do certain types of sex - anal, BDSM, chems etc.

  • Feeling stereotyped to have the 'right sex' according to other's view of your sexual orientation or gender identity

  • Safer sex generally and safer fetish

  • Feeling shut down sexually - after loss, trauma or for no apparent reason

  • Feeling overstimulated sexually - leading to performance issues

  • or anything sex related that you need to speak to a professional about.


Matt Valentine-Chase is a 'sexpert' who many trust with sex counselling issues in London and online. He works in an original way, from the heart and has over 21 years of experience as a counsellor.


Please see About Matt Valentine-Chase for details of his background, experience and therapy training.

Maybe you want to see a sex counsellor who is experienced at supporting people to also look at underlying issues that may be affecting your sex and relationship life. You may have experienced:

  • Trauma in the past or recently

  • Relationship abuse

  • Relationship loss

  • Anxiety and/or depression

  • Stress

  • PTSD or shock that affects sex

  • Confusion - around your sexual orientation or gender identity

  • anything that may or may not have affected your sex and relationship life.

Not all clients resonate with the traditional therapy/coaching approach, so whilst Matt is trained in general therapy, specialising in sex and relationship needs, he is deeply empathic, with a natural healing ability. He has been trained - both formally and experientially - in healing modalities for 30 years. This means that he can tune in to you very quickly and assist you on your next sex, relationship, or personal development goal.

Where he works: All appointments are online. Matt on occasion offers sex coaching, therapy for sex problems and addictions in Kings Cross, near St Pancras station for non-touch sex coaching.

Matt Valentine-Chase is disability inclusive, sex positive, kink positive and a sex worker friendly therapist.

New for 2023 - Multimedia therapy - from email support to personalised video/voice/sms messages from Matt and more. A modern way to get the professional help you need fast.

About Sex Coaching

What is Non-Touch Sex Coaching?

What Matt does is to gently, often very quickly, bring your awareness right back to the most important place it should be for better sex – you. Your fullest attention needs to be inside your body. Matt wants you to really feel the body in which you reside, experience the breath, the rise and fall of your chest, the pumping of your heart. This is sometimes called 'mindful awareness' and is an unusual, yet effective, way to increase sexual sensitivity and connection with your sexual self. Because this method is non-touch, it can be done online.

This method, some of which Matt has devised himself through experience, has incredible positive effects on your entire body... it increases what Matt calls body awareness and also begins to bring to your attention what it feels like to be present. Matt can also offer practical advice on what to do, where to put it and so on. It's a wholistic way to get the sex you need.

What is Non-Touch Sex Counselling?

Non-touch Sex Coaching is more direction orientated, goal focussed and practical, counselling is where you benefit from Matt's therapy training. This means that you may prefer a slower process for your sex or relationship issues. It also means that Matt's therapy training can help you to identify possible underlying, emotional or psychological, blockages or challenges that are currently getting in the way of your sexual pleasure. The two can be combined and often are.


Online Sex Worker Therapy...

Matt is sex work affirmative, pro decrim and a passionate advocate for sex workers. Therapists are notorious for being sex worker exclusionary and for 'pathologizing' the sex worker's job: meaning that the therapist (and therapy) assumes that the job is inherently dangerous, that the worker has been 'forced' into it and that there must have been something that 'went wrong' in the workers' life to 'make them' work in the industry. Matt believes that sex work and sex workers are stigmatised - and that sex work is a job, like anything else. Some workers enjoy their job, some don't. Matt offers non-judgemental therapy for all sex workers. He is one of the few therapists listed on the Viva Street resource of sex work friendly therapists. He is also listed on the NESW Forum so you know he is checked, verified and trusted in the sw community. More info here: Counselling for Sex Workers where you will also see a quick video from him explaining his approach and experience in sex worker therapy.

Quick Links:

Sex Coaching London - Sex Counselling London - Relationship Coaching London - Counselling for Sex Workers

All therapy and sex coaching is available online and is just £75.00 per one hour session (online fee only). Sex Coach London in-person  fee is £130.00 per session.

For general therapy, you may like to see the general counselling page for mental health support, mid-life questioning, personal development, depression, anxiety and much more.

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SPECIAl package price

Save money, buy a three, six, nine or twelve session package. Six sessions are just £429.00. Book now to secure this exclusive price.

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2023.... A New Way to Engage:

All consultations are now online by: Skype or WhatsApp video. Telephone appointments are also welcome. Text or book direct via make a booking link.


To pay in non UK currency please book your session either direct with Matt or via the make a booking link. If your currency isn't showing in the payment area, email for Matt to send you an invoice in your preferred currency. He accepts all major cards, apple pay, google pay, klarna and more.


NEW: Matt now offers email support, texting, voice notes, live 'booster' video chat (of 30 mins) and pre-recorded video notes, for those who resonate with this multimedia approach to therapy and coaching. Please pop him an email or text to enquire. This is not suitable for some, but many clients have said this is very helpful for 'top ups'.


Remember Matt offers general therapy and intuitive healing too, there will be a dedicated website soon. In the meantime please see the General Therapy page.

For Matt's online general therapy practice and exciting online multi-media content, including guided exercises for mental health and more... stay tuned, it's on the way!

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Matt Valentine-Chase Sex Coach

The London Sex Coach


Belle's Secrets is a talk show for fetish and fantasy. Hosted by Chrystelle Belle and co-hosted by Selena Secret and Matt Valentine-Chase - it offers a fun, insightful and deep dive into fetish, kink, sex positivity and fun. Matt is the weekly resident sex expert on 'The Sex Clinic' where he answers your questions on everything sex, relationships, kink, sex with a disability, adult industry, fetish and more. All questions welcome.

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Men are feeling more isolated and misunderstood. Let's put that right...



It's great to have you here! Welcome to the site, please take a look at this short intro video and I very much look forward to meeting you. BIG hug! Matt :-)

Welcome Video

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